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“So What Can I Get You for Your Wedding?”  

Written by: Lorelei G. Voorsanger, SoKind Registry User

It should have been a question that filled us with delight and anticipation, but when our friends started to ask us what they could get us as wedding gifts, both Mark’s and my face dropped. “A new salad bowl? Some dishtowels? A set of steak knives?” Nooooo!!!! You see, we are so rich. And I don’t mean the kind of rich that you might be thinking, with three houses, five cars, and money to burn. Not that kind. But we’re so rich with love and family. And we’re especially rich with stuff. STUFF. This was the second marriage for both of us, and when we came together to blend families, we looked around and realized we had at least two of everything. Two sets of frying pans, two sets of camping gear, two toasters. Two sons and two… no, wait… THREE daughters. See! We had some to spare! We pared down most things to just one (but kept all the kids), and still, our garage and storage areas were bountifully full. View More: Hmmmm…. Could we get away with being stern about our “no gifts” policy? We gave it some thought and decided that either people might think we’re grouchy and not grateful, or they would haul off and get us yet another set of pillowcases (we have 68 pillowcases… no joke) that we really don’t need. We had to find a way to redirect our guests to something that we could feel good about receiving. That’s where our SoKind registry came in. We brainstormed with the kids about activities that the whole family could feel good about (donations to causes we care about, passes to the local pool so we could all splash around on a hot day, home-cooked meals to give the kids a break from my weird dinners) and a few lovely indulgences for our honeymoon like a massage or bicycle rental or hotel room view upgrade.  Since we didn’t know where or when we would be able to go on our honeymoon, the “credits” to apply toward our romance at a later date were perfect. It couldn’t have fit our personalities more! We customized our registry to the hilt with a background, funny descriptions, goofy family photos, and creative requests for gifts. The kids showed it to their friends, proud that our family wasn’t asking for fine china, but instead for donations to specific charities. Then, at our picnic-in-the-park wedding reception, as Mark and I were having a friendly hula hoop competition (I won) and eating our body weight in BBQ and cornbread, we overheard our friends saying: “Did you see their registry??!! It’s HILARIOUS! Here. I have it on my phone, I can show you.” We were delighted and flattered to hear people raving about how creative and fun and thoughtful it was that we put our own spin on the wedding gift tradition. View More: And I’m pleased to report that (aside from a cheese grater that stands two feet tall. What is THAT????), we received the most delightful “gifts.”  A piece of artwork made by a friend who had just traveled to Thailand and brought back materials to make a collage, a rum cake, a coupon for a couple’s massage, movie tickets, and many more thoughtful gestures. We didn’t get any more STUFF to clutter up our garage!!! For more information, visit SoKind Registry.

Weddings that Give Back: Amanda and Andrew – Elberta, MI

Black Sheep Bride has one of the most amazing community of Vendors That Give Back that I’ve ever seen in the wedding industry, however I’m a little biased, since this is my ‘brain child’ and all. The raw talent and purpose-filled passion that exudes in our BSB Vendor Community often leaves me breathless and equally empowered. It is vendors like Apaige Photography that remind me why I launched Black Sheep Bride in the first place. Her passion for the environment and serving her community is LOUD and her personality, style and branding attracts the wedding clients that best represent our mission: Using your love to love others! Grateful to Apaige Photography for sharing this sweet Weddings That Give Back story with us today!  Apaige Photography shared this with BSB, in her submission, ‘AJ and Andrew basically did everything themselves, along with involving as many give back, and local businesses, as possible. From including family members and friends as much as possible, to AJ baking her very own cake – this wedding was my dream and I am so glad I could be included in it.’ The bride had this to say about her wedding planning: ‘Flowers for Dreams is a Chicago based company that designed all of our bouquets. It was important to have some of Chicago with us on our big day. The company features a new, amazing, local charity each month and contributes 25% of their proceeds to that non-profit organization. We have both worked with or admired many of the agencies they benefit, so it seemed only fitting. The remainder of the flowers came from the Elberta/Frankfort Famers Market. We made all the desserts and rather than a receiving line, we served everyone dessert. Our friend, Patches, officiating also and our toasts were accompanied by a lambic-style sour beer, which we brewed over a year ago.’ The couple also chose to invest in ethical jewelry made by Mineralogy. Mineralogy is a collection of limited edition, conflict free, and one-of-a-kind jewelry designed and handcrafted by Chicago metalsmith, Theresa Cowan. Mineralogy creates unusual statement and heirloom quality pieces that pay tribute to the beauty of natural gems and minerals. Their ceremony and reception were held at the Elberta Life Saving Station, a local historic landmark, known for their long standing support of the community, on Betsie Bay, in Elberta, MI. www.apaigephotography.comwww.apaigephotography.comwww.apaigephotography.comwww.apaigephotography.comwww.apaigephoto The couple, alongside their loved ones, made all of the desserts for their wedding guest, as gifts. Instead of a traditional receiving line, they handed out these charming little jar cakes instead. They also invested in Crystal Lake Catering Co. and they incorporate as many local, fresh, farm to table elements as possible in their menu selections. Photographer (BSB Vendor):   Apaige Photography //Caterer:  Crystal Lake Catering Co.//Reception Venue: Elberta Life Saving Station//Floral Designer: Flowers for Dreams//Dress Store: J. Crew//Jewelry: Mineralogy Jewelry//Hair Stylist: Salon 415 //

Weddings that Give Back: Gina and Nate- Anderson Hall, CA

There is something nostalgic and magical about seeing such a talented and loving couple come together to be wed, with the communal help of their family and friends. Today’s wedding feature, of Gina and Nate’s wedding day, is slap full of intentionality, handmade tenderness, local community support and oozie amounts of great love! Thanks to our BSB Vendor, Michelle Feileacan Photography, for sharing their images, and their giving story with us! Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng029 Gina (the bride) is an amazing jewelry artist and created her squash blossom, necklaces for her bridesmaids, bolo ties for the groomsmen and even crafted their rings! On top of that, she also sought out the perfect vintage boho dress to walk down the aisle in! Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng498Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng458 The flowers were all grown locally. Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng043Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng508 Their ceremony was held under the redwoods and included lots of laughter, tears, and tattoos. The redwood grove is down the road from their house, and they live in the very same woods they were wed. The trees have a lot of significance in their lives (her business is Talking Tree Designs) so it couldn’t be a more perfect, intentional, space to vow their love. Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng067 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng499 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng495 Even their ceremony was community-driven, they were married by the groom’s father, a local woman played violin, their friends performed music at the ceremony. Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng103 Nate is a tattoo artist and two of his coworkers gave the happy couple matching tattoos, as part of their ceremony. Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng115 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng130 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng147 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng151 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng156 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng419 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng440  Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng475 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng483   Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng529 At the reception, hosted at a neighborhood hall, the community amazingness continued with friends and family bringing the most amazing display of food to share. The served a locally raised pig and then the rest was potluck to save on catering waste.  Friends and family provided the food, made flowers, baked biscuits, it was an amazing experience to witness. People were sharing recipes, swapping stories and marveling over the spread. Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng188 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng264 The band members were also friends of the couple and treated everyone to a great time. Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng331 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng335Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng268 Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng306   Pinzari_Glomb_MichelleFeileacanPhotography_mfpng520 BSB VENDOR- Photographer:  Michelle Feileacan Photography//Event Venue: Anderson Hall//Floral Designer: California sister//  

Herb Garden Inspired Wedding: Amy & Jean- Francis, Toronto, Ontario

One of the many joys of running Black Sheep Bride is witnessing countless wedding stories driven by selfless love, intentional community and giving back. This wedding will have you tearing up with each image. Joel Bedford’s intricate and intimate style of capturing all of these sweetly sustainable details, quiet moments and raw emotions truly captivated my heart. Thanks to our amazing BSB Vendor, Celia Grace Fair Trade Wedding Gowns, for submitting their story for us to share!
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In awe of what Amy, the bride, had to share:
‘We dubbed our wedding a DIT (do-it-together) wedding, because it was largely friends & family that contributed the food, decor, and everything really! Even our wedding bands were made by a very creative friend.  My sister-in-law, Marie-Eve Best, designed the floral arrangements and I designed our invites/stationary.  Also, our make-up was provided by Oresta Organic Skin Care, our of Ottawa and my gown was from Celia Grace Fair Trade Wedding Gowns.’
Photos courtesy of Joel Bedford Photography
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Weddings that Give Back: Kayla & Reece- Eau Claire, Wisconsin

Nothing is quite as inspiring as tender, authentic, candid and intentional wedding stories! Today’s wedding feature is officially being added to the BSB list of all-time favorites, thanks to our BSB vendor, LIV Photography. Thank you Olivia for sharing their story with us and capturing their sustainable wedding with such delicate care, it is like reaching in and literally feeling all of the tender emotions in every single image. blog-55
‘Kayla and Reece met through the University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire’s campus chapter of International Justice Mission. They led the campus organization side by side serving as co-Presidents and developed a deep friendship with the same heart for seeing justice come for people worldwide. When Kayla took a semester off to do a Discipleship Training School with Youth With a Mission (YWAM) in Las Vegas, their friendship turned into a relationship. It’s obvious that these two are better together and they have a joined heartbeat to serve the poor, love others well, and change the world.’
[What is International Justice Mission (IJM): IJM partners with local authorities to rescue victims of violence, bring criminals to justice, restore survivors, and strengthen justice systems.
They combat slavery, sex trafficking, property grabbing, police abuse of power and sexual violence in nearly 20 communities throughout Africa, Latin America and South and Southeast Asia.
Their vision is to rescue thousands, protect millions and prove that justice for the poor is possible.]
‘Their wedding day reflected these priorities. Kayla chose to do as many fair trade and ethical aspects as possibles. From thrifted and DIY decor, to foraged native florals, to a vintage custom made dress and sustainable wedding rings, they made the main aspects of their day line up with their core values. They combined budget, give-back, and amazing style together for one magical wedding.’ blog-13 blog-19 blog-23 blog-25 blog-87 blog-89 blog-50  blog-72blog-41blog-53  blog-59  blog-74 blog-76 blog-83 blog-84 blog-105 blog-106 blog-91 blog-93 blog-96 blog-98 blog-101  blog-108 blog-111 blog-112 blog-114   blog-126 blog-129 blog-130 blog-132 blog-136 blog-145  blog-157 blog-159 blog-161 blog-163 blog-165 blog-174 blog-178blog-146 Photography: LIV Photography | Dress: Andrea’s Vintage Bridal | Rings: Ingle and Rhode UK | Getting Ready: Schlegelmilch House | Ceremony: Carson Park | Reception: Bye the Willow